Trauma

Trauma describes the invisible scars many of us live with. Pain from past events can overwhelm your current and future life. This guide will help to outline ways to recover and heal from them.

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What is it?

Trauma is a reaction your brain and body can have to a stressful or tragic event. What triggers a traumatic response varies for everyone, which can make it hard to know if you’re experiencing the effects of trauma. It’s typically associated with physical or sexual assault, violence, or accidents, but can also involve repeated events like neglect.

Experiencing a stressful event doesn’t always result in trauma. And experiencing trauma does not always lead to long-lasting effects. About 1 in 3 people who experience trauma develop Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)¹, a mental health disorder that includes symptoms like avoidance and changes in arousal lasting a month or more.

It’s hard to deal with a wound that can’t be seen. You might experience strong emotions unexpectedly, trouble sleeping, or physical sensations like a fast heartbeat, seemingly without warning. But, like any other wound, it needs attention to heal.

Identifying the source of your trauma and how it impacts you is a challenging but important step. You may not feel like talking about it right away, and that’s OK. There are other ways to move forward that may be right for you.

What’s causing it?

There are many possible causes of trauma as well as ways to categorize them. Here’s a breakdown of the main types:

Acute Trauma: This refers to trauma in reaction to a one-time, one-off event—for example: getting in a car crash, or unexpectedly losing someone you love.
Chronic Trauma: This is trauma that develops in response to a dangerous situation that repeats over a longer period of time. This includes things like constant bullying, neglect, or any kind of ongoing abuse.
Secondary Trauma: This is a reaction to witnessing other people’s hardships or acute trauma. It’s a kind of trauma that’s common for first responders, such as firefighters, EMTs, and social workers.
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE): This refers to traumatic childhood events that can affect you later in life. Experiences like the loss of a parent, parental neglect, abuse or family conflict are common ACEs.

How trauma impacts the LGBTQ+ community

Stigma and discrimination are sources of trauma for many. For LGBTQ+ people, negative experiences with rejection, emotional harm, and physical violence simply because of who you are can leave a deep impact. Especially when the harm is somehow tied to your gender identity or sexuality, it can make you feel like you yourself are the problem, and not the person hurting you, even though this isn’t true.

Trauma related to your gender identity or sexuality can cause shame, the feeling that you are inherently bad because of who you are.

No one deserves to feel ashamed of themselves because they survived a traumatic experience. That’s why it’s so important to seek out mental health care that is trauma-informed and sensitive to your experiences and struggles.

How should I deal with it?

Sometimes we protect ourselves from the feelings associated with trauma by dissociation, feeling detached from reality, or intellectualization, focusing on facts over feelings. This can often help us in the moment, but in the long run can prevent us from truly coping.

Recognizing the effects of past trauma and exploring ways to work on it is one of the greatest and bravest forms of self-compassion. It can be challenging to find the time and energy to prioritize mental health, but the rewards for doing so are countless.

Things to try

In general, focusing on activities that improve your mood and sense of self are great, healthy ways to respond to trauma.

Try the 4-7-8 relaxing breathing technique

Try the 5-4-3-2-1 relaxation and grounding technique
Spend some time with a pet
Try journaling

More Things To Try

How to help a loved one

Trauma is a heavy burden. It can feel particularly overwhelming if someone’s dealing with it alone. Having support from someone you love can be absolutely invaluable—it makes the ability to reflect and process traumatic events easier and helps to decrease feelings of isolation, among other things.

Adequate, trauma-informed, culturally competent healthcare is an incredibly important part of healing from trauma. Encourage or help your loved one to find mental health services that understand their experiences and are sensitive to their identities (like LGBTQ+ specific healthcare services). Therapies like cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), cognitive processing therapy (CPT), and eye-movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) are proven to significantly improve the negative impact of trauma.

When a person you love is dealing with the effects of trauma, you might see them have moments of anger or lash out suddenly. The best thing you can offer in response is patience and understanding. Watch your language and reactions, including your facial expressions, and recognize that you are there to listen and validate their feelings.

Talking about trauma out loud can be triggering and hard. It’s important to remember that processing trauma comes in a few phases, and is best dealt with in therapy with a professional. Processing trauma without the guidance of a professional could be dangerous and lead to greater mental health challenges.

Instead, offer your loved one support and comfort by spending time with them and doing activities they like to do.

You can also offer peace of mind by helping pick up some extra household chores or surprising them with a nice meal. Small gestures can go a long way toward making someone dealing with trauma feel seen and understood, and most importantly, not alone.

That being said, be sure to take care of yourself to prevent secondary trauma. Set boundaries around when you’re available and how you offer support, and make sure to practice self-care, whether that’s in therapy or on your own.

What can I do now?

If you believe you’ve experienced or are experiencing trauma, you’ve already taken an important first step by finding this page. There are many resources available for people dealing with trauma from all causes and at all stages—whether you’ve just realized it’s what you’re going through, or whether you’ve been dealing and trying to address it for a while.