Grief & loss

Grief is what we experience after a significant loss. This guide will help you to recognize what the grieving process can look like and to learn ways to help yourself and others cope.
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What is grief?

Grief is not just a feeling: It’s an emotional process you may go through after a major life loss. While it’s often associated with death, you can also grieve other losses, like a relationship, friendship, or even an old job or school. 

Grief looks different for different people, and there is no right way or amount of time to grieve. Some describe experiencing grief in waves—intense and close together soon after a loss, then smaller and less frequent later on. Others might experience a wave of grief long after a loss, seemingly out of nowhere. However it shows itself, grief can have significant impacts on your mind, body and relationships. 

What's causing it?

When it comes to dealing with loss, grief is a natural human response. Death is one (but not the only) type of loss that can trigger grief. Getting a tough health diagnosis, losing a job or going through a breakup are other very common examples. Any big change in your life such as moving to a new place or losing touch with friends can also cause grief.

There are two main types of grief: 

  • Normal or uncomplicated grief: This is when the feelings of sadness associated with grief become easier to manage over time, don’t affect your daily routine, and you can learn to cope with them.
  • Complicated grief: This is when feeling sad–despite giving yourself a decent amount of time to recover–doesn’t stop and affects your ability to follow your daily routines or enjoy life. There’s a chance this type of grief can become Prolonged Grief Disorder and lead to the need to get mental health help for it.

How should I deal with grief?

Experiencing a big loss can leave you feeling shocked and disoriented. It’s important to give yourself time and allow yourself to feel what you feel. Don’t judge yourself for your feelings—there are no good or bad emotions or a “right” way to feel. You may need to get past some intense feelings before you realize you’re in the process of grieving. (Note: It’s totally fine and normal for it to be messy.)

Becoming aware of the grief and understanding that your unique reaction is valid is another important step. You might not grieve in the same way as others, even for the same loss, and that’s OK. 

There are steps you can take and ways to get support from others to help you get through it.    

Things to try

Here are a few ideas of things you can do to help you work through grief and find acceptance.
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What can I do now?

If you’re in the process of grieving, know that while things may feel very hard right now, symptoms of grief will lessen over time. Learning more about the grieving process, taking good care of and checking in with yourself, and getting the support you need can help you rebound in the way and timeline that’s best for you.