When your mind’s consumed by what has gone or might go wrong (what’s known as worry), it can be debilitating. This guide will help explain why you might be feeling this way and help you manage it.
What is worry?
If you’ve ever felt extremely nervous about an upcoming test, or got in a car and felt uneasy about the safety of driving, you’ve felt worried. We all worry at different points in our lives and for different reasons. Usually, the thoughts are temporary or we can divert our attention to something else.
But, if those thoughts stick around and it's hard to think about anything else, worry can become consuming. Focusing on the present is challenging when you’re constantly thinking about the “what-ifs” in the future.
For some folks, worry can lead to feelings of fear or impending doom, accompanied often by physical symptoms, like trouble breathing or body tension. This is called panic. Some people experience sudden and intense “attacks” of panic, that can often have no clear trigger. This can feel scary, especially if you’ve never felt that way before and are feeling it for the first time.
Not all worry is a diagnosable mental health condition. If worry becomes difficult to control and you have trouble relaxing, or you experience recurrent episodes of panic, it’s possible you might be experiencing an anxiety disorder. This is a category of mental health condition that includes panic disorder and generalized anxiety disorder. If that’s the case, talk to a mental health professional about it further.
What's causing my worry?
Our body was evolutionarily designed to predict threats and run from a threat, which is exactly what worry and anxiety tell us. If we learn, for example, that a bear will eat us, we biologically prepare to run from a bear if we see one (in how we breathe, and how our muscles tense up, for example).
It makes sense why we evolved these responses as a way to protect us and help us survive. Worry andanxiety are not just normal for all of us–it’s often necessary.
That being said, sometimes our internal detectors get out of whack and we perceive more threats (or potential threats) than there actually are. We might have difficulty stopping ourselves from worrying, and start physically preparing to protect ourselves and run.
Depending on how much those feelings interfere with our lives, we might be just experiencing different levels of anxiety, from worry to panic. Those feelings are often temporary and can sometimes be addressed, in part, by trying to identify the source of the concern.
Some common sources of worry, anxiety and panic include:
Stressful work environments
Money issues
Relationship concerns
Large crowds
Chronic illness
Other factors may also influence our detector, leading to increases in anxiety. These factors include the food we eat and diet we have, our lifestyle habits and our genetics. For example, lack of sleep or drinking a lot of caffeine can heighten anxiety. Anxiety can also be hereditary, meaning it was inherited from a parent or has been passed down for generations. Knowing what these feelings are and where they come from can be a great first step to feeling better and dealing with the long-term.
Related emotions, moods and life challenges
Worry and panic are common responses to several different emotions and life events.
Understanding that you are experiencing worry, anxiety or panic and learning ways to focus less on the future and more on the present can be a helpful step in decreasing your mental and physical responses.
This is hard to do in the moment and takes practice: It might be something as small as taking a few minutes out of the day to focus on how you’re breathing, learning to be mindful of your surroundings and safety and practicing being more grounded.
Taking small steps to be kind to yourself by learning to both self-soothe and interrupt negative thought cycles can pay huge dividends in your quality of life.
Things to try
While many different things can cause worry and panic, and worry and panic are different feelings, there are many proven approaches to understanding yourself more and feeling better.
Though getting a massage might sound overly indulgent, it can provide healing benefits like calming your nervous system, increasing circulation, relieving muscle tension, eliminating toxins, and boosting immunity. Massage has also been shown to decrease cortisol (a stress hormone) and increase levels of oxytocin (known as “the love hormone.”) Though it's always an option to book at a spa, you can also try self massage or ask a partner.
TLDR: Weighted blankets work. Weighted vests even work for our animal friends! And there are even weighted stuffed animals.The science is simple: It's like being tucked in – safe and secure – or like a big hug from someone you love. The weight in a weighted blanket is proven to help settle nerves and improve sleep, which in turn has all sorts of benefits for your health.
If you feel things getting worse instead of better, notice you've lost interest in people and things you used to enjoy, or have trouble doing everyday things like eating, getting dressed, and getting out of the house, you may be experiencing a more serious mental health issue and it’s important to seek out help from a therapist or psychiatrist who can help you find relief. It can be hard to recognize changes in symptoms, so consider tracking them in a journal or mood-tracking app.
If you or a loved one is having thoughts of self-harm, talk to someone you trust or call or text 988 to get free and confidential support from the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
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Struggling with an overwhelming sense of worry or panic can make it hard to know what’s going on with you, where it’s coming from, if you need to get help and what kind of help you might need. It’s important to remember that there are healthy ways to manage or even alleviate your feelings. What ultimately works for you might take some time and patience to find, but it’s out there. Seek resources, practice mindfulness, and be kind to yourself while you seek a path forward.
