Navigating your gender & sexuality

The LGBTQ+ community is not a monolith; it’s a richly diverse group of people with a wide range of lived experiences. The discrimination and hate they face in the world threatens their ability to thrive. Learn about the challenges LGBTQ+ folks face and how to foster self-discovery and acceptance.
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What is it?

LGBTQ+ is an acronym representing an incredibly wide variety of people, identities, and experiences across spectrums of gender and sexuality. As an umbrella term, LGBTQ+ covers both non-heterosexual and non-cisgender folks. Because of that diversity, it can be hard to generalize about people’s lived experiences. There are even expanded versions of the acronym, but the version we’re using means:

  • Lesbian
  • Gay
  • Bisexual
  • Transgender
  • Queer or Questioning
  • +, to signify other identities including Asexual, Intersex, Two-Spirit, and more

The truth is, many people can't explore their identities because the risk of enduring rejection, bullying, and even violence is far too big. Your gender and sexuality are natural parts of who you are. But because we still live in a world that assumes straightness and being cisgender (this is called heteronormativity and cisnormativity), self-exploration isn’t a privilege everyone enjoys.

Coming to terms with your gender and sexuality can be confusing and scary, but it can also be transformative. It can unlock previously unknown parts of yourself; it can reveal your potential as a person; it can bring a world of happiness, excitement, creativity, love, and joy.

What’s difficult about it?

It’s easy to talk about self-discovery but doing it can be difficult, especially when you lack resources, safe places to turn, or safe people to talk to.

LGBTQ+ identities were once categorized and treated as mental health conditions, all operating with the underlying assumption that being gay or trans was a disease that could be cured. While we’ve come a long way in combating hateful ignorance, the stigma hasn’t completely gone away.

Over the past several decades, LGBTQ+ folks have waged strong and successful efforts to combat that stigma, formalize their rights, and gain greater acceptance. But in recent years, anti-LGBTQ+ discrimination has increased, making it harder for LGBTQ+ folks to live as their authentic selves.

Transphobia and LGBTQ+ discrimination can take a toll on your mental health.

How should I deal with it?

Discovering who you are can be difficult, but you’re not alone. Giving yourself space to heal and explore, and seeking out people who understand you, is a great place to start.

Things to try

Acknowledge and avoid negative self-talk
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    Connect with others

  • Build pride for your community

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    Try talking about it

More Things To Try

What can I do now?

If you’re in the process of discovering who you are, you aren’t alone. If you haven’t figured it all out yet or just need some more information, we have some ways to get through and learn more.